If sex with your partner has been feeling boring and routine the past few months, now is the perfect time to add some freaky kinky sex ideas to your sex life in order to spice things up. Some people immediately get intimidated by talking about kinky sex ideas, but there’s nothing to fear. These kinky sex tips allow you both to be as adventurous as you are both comfortable with. There’s nothing wrong with starting out slow, and move on to more kinky ideas later on.
1) Blindfolds
They say that when you remove the use of one of your senses, all your other senses will become heightened. If you blindfold your partner or they blindfold you, all of the sensations on your body will become that much more intense. Plus, this allows you to surprise your partner a bit. They won’t know what your next move is when they can’t see where and how you’re moving. It allows their imagination to take over!
2) Hold & Cold
Prolonging the sexual encounter is ideal for both partners. While a quickie is fun when you’re in a rush or just have to get your hands on your partner, taking extra time to slow the sex down and elongate the process can be pretty kinky. When your partner is close to orgasming, slow things down. Here’s the kinky sex idea, take some time to pleasure yourself while they watch, and then start back up again when they’ve cooled down a bit. By the time you both orgasm, things are going to be intense!
3) Lead Them Somewhere New
It’s nice to talk about things with your partner ahead of time so you both know what sex ideas to try, but being in the heat of the moment and leading your partner somewhere new can also be a lot of fun. When you’re both already turned on, it’s even more enjoyable if you move into a new position or guide their hands to somewhere on your body that you enjoy. Don’t be afraid to use your own hands to pleasure yourself during sex. After all, both of you should walk away completely satisfied!
4) Restraints
Here’s a great kinky sex idea to spice things up! Restricting your partner’s movements allows you to take full control of sex. You can take things nice and slow so they’re begging for more. You can move how you want on top of them, controlling the depth of thrusts and the speed. However, they won’t be able to use their hands. Taking this away forces your partner to simply focus on what’s being done to them. YES!
5) Rough Him Up
There’s nothing wrong with taking things to a bit rougher of a level, but you want to make sure that both you and your partner are ready for it. If your partner isn’t open to you being more rough with them, then you shouldn’t proceed. If they’re on board, you can work this kinky sex idea into your sexual intercourse. Try some spanking (on their top, side or bottom of their butt cheeks), pulling hair, biting their hair & pulling it (very animalistic!) and forcefully grabbing your partner’s hips. That desire and need to be with the other person will come through, and this takes sex to a whole new level!
6) Wrestling
Another great kinky sex idea is to have a little fun and wrestle with each other a bit. Of course, make sure you’re both being safe and conscientious of the other person’s safety. As you playfully wrestle, clothing can come off and things can get more intense. Use more grabbing and squeezing motions not chokeholds and arm bars! Lol!
7) Degradation & Humiliation
Humiliating your partner or having them humiliate you may be something that you’re both very much into. Usually there’s one partner that prefers to dominate the other, so talk about who that would be. This can involve ordering your partner to do things or even preventing them from having an orgasm until you’re ready and talking down to your partner. Some couples even enjoy urinating and /or defecating on each other. It’s no one else’s business except your own what the 2 of you do to pleasure each other! The kinkier the the sex the better!
8) Pleasure From Pain aka Sadism & Masochism
A little bit of pain is something that many people find very kinky AND very pleasurable. If your partner is comfortable with it, you can try using some toys like nipple clips, whips, flails and handcuffs. Even biting (not to be confused with playful nibbling) is a very fun change of pace. Usually this is used on the meatier areas of the body (i.e. butt, inner thighs, sides of the neck, etc.).
9) Involve Other People (Swinging & More)
If you can find a way to safely do so with people you trust, you and your partner could consider involving other people in your sex life. Talk about kinky sex idea to spice things up! Wow! This could be adding someone else to make it a threesome, or you may want to swap partners entirely! Both of you need to consent to this, and understand what you’re getting into. Plenty of people can swap partners or add someone else into the relationship without developing feelings for that person, but things can go wrong if emotions start to get involved. Also, it’s important that you are all aware of your sexual health. Getting tested beforehand allows for some good clean fun.
10) Public Play
Some people like to get freaky in a public place where there’s a risk of being caught. You don’t necessarily have to sneak some sex in a public restroom or something similar, but think about ways that you can perform some foreplay while out on the town. Maybe a pair of vibrating panties is a fun way for your man to control your orgasms. Maybe there’s somewhere in your yard that you can have sex that’s private enough that you won’t get caught, but it will be exciting that you know people are nearby. Also, places like in a public park at nighttime, at the beach (day or night), going camping and doing it in a tent or out in the open in the woods, etc. are all great options. One of my favorites is having sex or heavy petting in the dressing rooms in women’s retail clothing stores!
11) Roleplaying
After you’ve been having sex with the same person for years, things can get a little boring. This doesn’t mean that you’re not in love with the person anymore, but your sex life could use something exciting to spice it up. Roleplaying allows you both to act as someone else. You can act out your wildest fantasies by having your partner dress and act like somebody that REALLY turns you on (i.e. a celebrity, singer, actor/actress, model, etc.). This is also a great way to let loose and feel more comfortable in the bedroom. If you play a role instead of being yourself, you’re more likely to talk dirty and have sex in positions that otherwise would have made you feel a little apprehensive in your normal state.
12. Leave The Windows Open
By leaving the blinds open or the window cracked, you can dial up your freak-o-meter a bit! You could be naked, almost naked, actually having sex – as far as you want to go. The chance that someone could see you—or maybe just hear you—makes things all the more exciting! This is a simple and easy kinky sex idea to spice things up!
13. Drip Hot Oil On Each Other With A Massage Candle
Massage candles are specially formulated to heat up and turn into a sensuous oil that you can rub all over your partner (just NOT inside your partner—it’s not meant to be used as lube). After the candle turns to liquid oil, blow it out and it will stay liquefied for 30 minutes, which is plenty of time to gently drip it onto your partner and give them a spicy rubdown.
14. Try Orgasm Denial
Have you ever skipped lunch because you know you’re going out for a huge dinner? Sure, you feel pangs of hunger throughout the day, and you know could easily resolve that discomfort by having a quick bite but you chose not to because, at the end of the day, a big meal is more rewarding than a decent snack? That’s essentially what orgasm denial is.
The way this kinky sex idea works is to bring your partner to the brink of orgasm but cease stimulation before they hit climax. This concept of prolonged arousal is thought to lead to more intense orgasms. Plus, there is a BDSM element to consider. Taking control of someone else’s orgasm isn’t exactly for the faint of heart. You or your partner begging permission to come can also be extremely hot!
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When you’re getting freaky and kinky to spice up your sex / love life, you should be careful. Communication is very important in order for both you and your partner to feel safe trying new things. If anyone starts to feel uncomfortable at any point, the other partner has the responsibility of being able to pull back and respect their partner’s wishes. If you’re both comfortable with trying new things, this can be a really fun and exciting time to try NEW kinky sex ideas to spice things up!